Family makes us who we are as adults. Our siblings are often our first friends, our parents our first teachers, and the impact they make on our life lasts long after they’re gone and we’re old and gray. Family can be everything, but for many people, family can also be the reason they started drinking or using drugs in the first place. When you’re a recovering addict, family can be your greatest asset or your biggest hangup. No matter where your family stands on that scale, it’s important to understand that even in the most relaxed, tight knit families, there will be conflict and issues that pop up. When you’re in recovery, it’s even more important than ever for you to learn how to handle these situations and deal with the unpleasantness without turning back to your vice.
The first thing you have to do is remember that the only thing that you can absolutely without a doubt control is yourself, your behavior and what you say and do. As much as you may want to, you can’t change someone else or control what choices they make. At the end of the day, all you can do is keep yourself in check. It’s also important to remember that your family members are only human too; you have your struggle with addiction, you should remember that your loved ones have their own trials and battles that you likely know nothing about. Be kind, even if they’re lashing out, but always stand up for yourself.
It’s also important to remember that as much as we may wish it were different sometimes, in some cases, our family members will just continue to trigger us, or cause problems. You may or may not be forced to cut ties with some people, especially if they continue in their own addiction or constantly try to reinforce bad habits for yourself or your own family. Sadly, that’s just how family goes for some people, and it’s not anyone’s place to judge, but it’s important to remember that some family relationships just can’t be saved, or they may put your sobriety at risk.
Remember that your family most likely only wants the best for you, but keep in mind that they may stir up emotions for you that can be difficult to handle. Remember the tools learned in treatment and you’ll find your way through tricky family situations.
It’s important not to let the fear of family issues stand between you and getting the help you need. If you’re currently struggling with addiction or relapsing back into addiction, The Springboard Center can help you get into a program that suits your needs. Their residential and outpatient treatment programs help give you the support and tools to build a solid foundation of good habits and self care. There’s hope, even in the worst moments of addiction. Choose to save your life, and call today: 432-620-0255.
